Purity.

No it’s not someone’s name although it sounds like. Haha. I believe that all of you some way of another know what it is. None of you are THAT innocent. During the men and women’s meeting, Pastor, Laoda and their wives gave talks about the topic about sex, dating etc. On Sunday, I went to the library and saw a book in the Christianity book section called And the Bride wore White about keeping ourselves pure (actually it’s more for girls). When I picked it up, I thought hey I’m not having a problem about keeping myself chaste and I wasn’t actually going to borrow it. But God kept pulling me back to the book (I’ve finished reading it FANTASTIC). I believe there is something God’s trying to teach me. Because this morning as I was reading the newspapers, I was shocked to read that the amount of teenagers IN SINGAPORE was indulging in sexual immorality. What shocked me the most was a boy who’s now only 11 going on 12 had been in sexual relationships since he was 9! Social issues like that and even the baby thing going on now are issues that I’m really interested in. Not because I have some sick fantasy but because it makes me want to see Jesus in all this. I have a passion for people to live Godly lives and I completely hate it when people just waste away what God has given them. Especially if they say they’re Christians. No I’m not condemning you if you’re living like that, I just don’t understand why. Even now I can’t imagine why I wasted the past few years before I got serious about God, what was I doing? Anyway, I was doing my QT just an hour ago (throughout the day I was having a hard time picking up my bible so when I read what I read I KNEW that God was trying to show me something and the devil was trying to stop me), and I read the John 17 which is Jesus saying a prayer for his disciples and for future believers like you and me. I came to the part where Jesus says, “sanctify them”. My bible (hallelujah!) had a side note which says in Greek the word is “hagiazo” which means set apart for SACRED use or make holy. It was then I realized what God was trying to tell me. This may be a long entry but stick with me as I unfold this.


Firstly I have to say that it may seem weird for me to be talking about this but I believe that if Paul spoke strongly against sexual immorality in the bible, surely God despises it. I may be only 17 but this is exactly the time when most people fall into traps. Secondly, God created sex. It isn’t a dirty word. It’s a pure and holy covenant between a man and his wife and God to unite them and make them one. But He despises sexual immorality. Honestly, because I’ve never placed myself in any position where I could be tempted to doing anything physical, I’ve never had that kind of temptation. But I used to read and love reading love novels. Really, if you are, try to stop because you and I know that it isn’t good for us. I used to think wow what a nice love story and fantasize about me being the rebellious girl and my man being a rugged man who oozed charm. At first we would argue and all because he thought, no, expected girls to be submissive and all the silly girlie girls loved him because he was so charming and he could pick anyone he wanted. Then one day we would be trapped together or something and we would fall in love and elope and live happily ever after. That was my fantasy. Haha of course I’m never going to elope because I want to marry in a nice big church with family and friends but sounds cooler eh? Haha… For girls (guys too I think), it’s so fun fantasizing and all. But the negative side about reading such books was that it sparked off some kind of unhealthy desire and something not so pure if you know what I mean. Of course I’ve stopped already (being very real k just last June because of the os).


Well I want to say that God has made us humans with feelings of love etc. And they can be really special but never ever take it further than you can handle. Because before you know it, you may be doing something you actually told yourself you wouldn’t do in a million years. I believe we’ve had many talks about these kinds of things in school, in teenzeal, parents etc. You probably know all the ways to avoid these things. But as I say in my last entry, everything we do is by choice. No one can stop you from doing things if you want to. You may feel oh I’m doing this because my parents want me to. This is where I want to help you see differently. Why shouldn’t I have a boyfriend? Why should I keep myself pure? Why should I do this or do that? It really has to be a personal revelation and I hope you see this before you try anything. Let’s start thinking about our future spouse (I’m assuming some of you my guy friends are reading this haha). On your wedding day (oh man! I’m sure imagining mine believe me I’ve imagined this a lot), girls in your designer wedding dress (could be the traditional white or another pale colour. mine’s white) and guys in your smart tuxedo standing already at the altar (this is in a church although mine’s gonna be trista n ryan style with more class haha). Imagine yourself walking towards your handsome husband or standing at the altar looking at your beautiful wife walking towards you. What would you rather be feeling? Excited at spending the rest of your life together and knowing that you’ve done your best in saving yourself for this special person? Or to feel regret at knowing there was more you could do? (there is therefore now NO condemnation for those in Christ Jesus but you will feel certain things) Saving ourselves for our special persons is the most amazing gift you could give him/her.


The easiest way to prevent temptation and undesirable things from happening is to not even go near there. If you knew there was a landmine on that spot you wouldn’t purposely go stand there or even near it right? Same thing. My teacher told my friend who told me this. Amazing stuff. Things may start pure and even seem right but you never know how things may be manipulated by the devil. Having a boyfriend isn’t a bad thing. I love guys too haha. But having a boyfriend means commitment, no looking at other guys and again things may happen. So the best would be not to even go there.


I’ve had this great habit (actually it was an idea from my mum. You may find it kootie but most of the women of God who are in very loving marriages did it) where I keep a list of what I want in my future husband from personality to looks even. (Guys don’t roll your eyes. Here’s why it’s good doing it) It sets a standard for guys (or gals) you meet. If you haven’t realized not all the people you meet with you can click with all the way. The guy may be really nice and even love God everything but he may not be the kind of guy you like you know? Like let’s say for me. I like outspoken, charismatic (nothing to do with the name) and charming more than the quiet, shy kind (understand this is about future spouse not friends). So I might meet a really nice but quiet guy so he may not be the one for me. I’ve realized every time I like a guy, I look at my list and sometimes I realise that he’s really not my type. It also makes you more careful. The book I read really said something I fell in love with. How about on your wedding day, taking your list with the words “you fulfill it all” and presenting it to your husband? Cool right? That’s besides the point.

Remember that all of you are God’s precious princes and princesses. You may not feel like it but you are. A princess (I’m a girl too bad guys) behaves knowing that whatever she asks for is hers. She’s her father’s most precious in the whole kingdom. Everything He has is hers. She knows that she doesn’t have to beg, dress scantily to attract attention because all the attention of her royal subjects are hers. Dignity and class is what she carries herself with. This comes with knowing who you are. This is what you are. Take it and live it. Be blessed!