4 things i've learnt this week.

i think i've been learning stuff. otherthan the usual nonsense like fatherhood and stuff today is serIOUS stuff. :) finally.

lessonONE: selfishness is not a virtue.

i have this certain classmate (whomidon'tcaretomentionwho) who is the most selfcentred GUY i've ever known. yeah guy you know oh my word! so let me tell u what he does. let's say we're walking towards a door and he's right in front, he'll stop and let us girls walk (even tho he's RIGHT in front of the door) and open the door. it's not even ungentlemanly. it's selfish. and when he borrows things he makes them sound like you owe him something and i told him that when he borrows he should use the word please and know what he said (believe me i wouldn't have told me if i ever heard that word come out of his mouth)? he said i know how to say please. i use it when i return the thing. like will you please take it back? oh my LORD! and he never helps anyone like if you ask "how do you draw a perspective?" he'll say "just draw lor" and doesn't bother to help. but when he needs help he expects u to tell him everything to the details. (actually amazingly the list goes on.. but i'll stop here)

i've never met anyone or GUY as a matter of fact soooo selfcentred.

what's worse for him tho is our (as friends) mentality towards him. because he's this way, we just can't lend him anything. like if you give him one sheet of paper you want him to return a clean sheet immediately. i thot i was the only one being picky and like miserly towards him but i knew it couldn't be me since i could lend things out like mad. but to him it's like tough, i can't lend. then i found out and noticed that all his friends were like that to him too! like they'll ask for every cent back immediately. but with like others it's like "oh ok take ur time lah"

so i've learnt when you just chase what you want and be selfcentred it's not good. cos not only is YOUR mentality small and poor, even you're friends around you will be the exact same way to you and you alone.

lessonTWO: never take things for granted. say thank you.

tonight i went for bs and i had to sit behind a pillar and along the path where everyone walks (lessonthree). so there were 3 people next to me. a chinese (from china) guy and two lady friends who look quite abit older than this guy. so this guy (who reserved the seats for them) came to sit next to me and i heard him say, "are the seats ok?" and after awhile of talking he said "oh i'm sitting here cos the camera man is blocking this seat so you get better views" and i was like awwwwwww... but u noe wad??? one of the ladies was like "aiya i should have gone to sit with my other friend. i hate this seat. i don't like having pple walk past me during service" and not a word of thanks. but i guess she was tired. she looked like she was on the verge of cranky which is a mode i go into when i'm tired too.

i guess it's clearer to see from the outside but i think it's so impt to say thanks even for something so small like reserving seats. and it's not cos if he din do it for you u'd be sitting in the overflow? so it's really a privilege. so i'm gonna learn how to say thank you from now onwards.

lessonTHREE: Jesus is behind the pillar too.

so i was behind the pillar and i couldn't see adeline lead worship i couldn't see anything. but God taught me :) He asked me what does the pillar look like to you? i said like a problem. and God asked and what do you have with you now? and He said your bible and your tongues.

even when we're at a road block, God is there with us and it's as easy to reach Him as opening your mouth. and i noticed as much as i couldn't see a thing, i could hear. faith comes by hearing of the word.

i've been learning to open my clamped jaw too and pray in tongues. Daddy constantly reminding me praise God :)

God came and met me again tonight during bs but i'll save tt.

lessonFOUR: don't expect guys to be gentlemen. they disappoint.

girls am i or am i right? i am. yeah.. i've been thinking abt this. i think i've grown so accustom to having extremely gentlemanly guys around me (well done DARE and CAMPUS guys! all guys who grow up in the house of God are amazing) that i forgot there were guys who weren't. like lessonONE. so i'm learning still to not look to them. but if you ever happen to get "corrected" by me don't think i'm like being imposing or expect or what. i mean if you don't hold the door for me (see i din say open ah.. if you open the door for yourself at least leave it open for me to catch the handle rite) or help me carry my heavy load, really it doesn't matter (thank you Jesus in your name amen!), but it in a sense doesn't really reflect v well on you. cos gentlemanliness is about initiative. but no condemnation. afterall man fell cos of adam. so it's no surprise.

i'm kidding... we're all growing in Christ. i'm learning to not expect. but guys.. if you aren't gentlemanly you'll never find a gorgeous girlfriend who is like me obviously. girls are way too smart and sensitive to waste time. (Godly girls anw..)

so four lessons in one night. i'm definitely taught by God Himself.

you too yeah.